Posts Tagged ‘ Fall Quarter ’

A few more thoughts on family…

A few weeks ago I wrote about the division of labor in the home after talking about it in my sociology of family class. Today in class my teacher briefly mentioned the changing structure of family and the woman in the work force. Somewhat causally she mentioned that the workplace was become a more desirable place to be and less stressful then the home. She said people, women specifically, are “less drawn to the home and more drawn to work”. Is this really what society has come to? Are there seriously women and men, mothers and fathers that would rather go into work or work long hours then be home with their children? I cannot even imagine feeling like I would rather be at work then home with my family. No matter how much I love my job and am passionate about it, I would always see my family as my first priority.

The divorce rate doesn’t seem so strange when you think about how a partner is more drawn to spending time at work then at home. How is a marriage supposed to thrive or even survive when one or both of the partners would rather be at the office? Much less how are parents supposed to raise children in a healthy way?

I see the family as one of, if not the core unit of society. It is where children are first socialized, learn language and other basic skills and gain social norms and values. If the structure and integrity of the family is starting to deteriorate what does that say about the rest of society?

 

Just some thoughts to ponder, now back to studying! I cannot wait until finals are over and winter break is here!!!

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Our security in Christ

Today in church we went over the end of Romans 8 and it is such a powerful passage. Particularly verses 37-39

“No in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that

neither death nor life,

neither angels not demons,

neither the present nor the future,

nor any powers,

neither height nor depth,

nor anything else in all creation,

will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

 

How great is is that we have a God that loves us so much that He won’t let any of those things separate us from Him. It seriously blows my mind when I stop and think about it. I am loving the church I am going to (Ekklesia). Going through Romans 8 has been so great. The pastor would talk on a few verses a morning and in those two verses there would be so much truth and knowledge to be learned about God.

 

On another note, I can’t believe the term is almost over! It seems like all my teachers saved the loads of work for the end! In the next two weeks I have 4 papers, a midterm, a discussion and normal homework. Then its finals week! But in less than 3 weeks I will be done and 3 weeks from today Gavin will be here!! So at least there is that to look forward to 🙂

 

Is anybody else have lots of work at the end of this term?? Also I just remembered that I have homework due online on Thanksgiving!! Seriously what teacher doesn’t change the due date when the normal day the homework is due is Thanksgiving?!? Am I the only one that thinks this is a little ridiculous???

Division of Labor in the Home

Today in my sociology of family class we talked about the division of labor in the home. This summer in my theory class we learned about the division of labor theory that Durkhiem came up with. Durkhiem focuses more on the international division of labor, where as today we talked about how the labor to keep a household running is divided (usually between husband and wife).

The whole time my teacher was talking about creating an equal division of labor within the home. In other words, having a home where the man cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids, and does the same amount of housework that the woman does. Now in theory this sounds great, and why wouldn’t we want to strive towards this? But taking a closer look at what this means, and I don’t know if I would actually want an equal division of labor in my home. For instance, take cooking. I love to cook. I love to make dinner for people, it is a way that I like to show people I love them, care about them and value the relationship I have with them. I look forward to the day when I get to cook dinner (most) every night and enjoy a home cooked meal with my husband. Cooking is relaxing to me and a great way to de-stress from the day. Why would I want to have my husband cook every other night just so that our labor in the home would be equal? Not saying that I wouldn’t love to cook together or have help every now and then, but I love cooking. Why would I want to give up doing something I love?

This got me wondering, why are women so entranced by sharing everything equally? Honestly, there are somethings that I am better at than Gavin is, and things that he is better at then I am. Why would I try to do those things that he does so well, when he can do them better than me? Yes I want to take care of my kids, and hopefully be able to stay home with them. Why is that so looked down upon? Why in today’s society is being a stay-at-home mom seen as a bad thing? I found it a little funny that my teacher put a statistic up that valued the work of a stay-at-home mom around $130,000 for a year. I’m not sure what year that was for, but regardless these women are obviously doing a lot of work. Yet, there is a sense of drive towards dividing the labor within the home. I guess I see it more as my husband is going to have his job outside the home (and if he could make over $100,000 a year great) and I would do work inside the home that is just as valuable as his work. Also in class my teacher was saying how the difference in household work that men and women do has decreased in the last 50 years, but that is mainly because women are doing less work. Well who is doing the work now? Are the hiring help? That doesn’t seem like the best use of money, at least to me.

What I am not saying is that the woman/wife should do all the housework, cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids. I definitely think the man/husband should help around the house and be involved in the kids’ daily lives.

I guess what I am getting at is why is American society so fixated on men and women sharing all tasks equally?  Why can’t we acknowledge that (generally speaking) one gender is better at certain things then the other and be ok with that? The phrase “embrace the differences” comes to mind. Although people usually use this when talking about race, ethnicity or culture. Why wouldn’t it apply to gender?

What are your thoughts? Am I just totally out there and off the wall? What do you think about gender norms and division of labor in the home?

 

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Quick Update

This is mostly just because I haven’t posted in a while and give you all a quick update on life! In the past week I have:

  • Gone on Fall Retreat with CCF
  • Found a bible study!! YAY!!!!
  • Started taking midterms
  • Gotten my ticket for the UO v. UCLA game (STOKED!!!)
  • Went home for a dentist appointment
  • And done the normal go to school, do homework & life thing

 

So between all of those I have been pretty busy! But I am excited to write about all those things, well maybe not my dentist appointment, and let you all know what has been going on in my life! I am going to try really hard to post about some of those things Thursday or Friday! Also I am hoping to try out a new recipe and let you all know how it goes 🙂

Hope your weeks started off well! Halfway to the weekend!!

I LOVE MY DUCKS…and other happenings of the weekend

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Actually before I get to the game I want to write about my Friday night/Saturday morning. Alexa has a friend who is involved in a middle school ministry called Campus Life (it seems similar to Young Life) and she needed volunteers for, drumroll please…..A MIDDLE SCHOOL ALL NIGHTER!! WOOOO!! The aim of the night was to have a fun night and get the kids interested in the program so then they would come to the meetings and here the good news that is Jesus Christ! So there were middle schools from all around the Eugene area. The group was split in half (about 500 students in each group!!) so there was less middle school chaos. The first place our group went for the night was skate world. Skate world is a pretty standard 80’s skating rink. For the most part there was chaos, but it was fun! Alexa and I got to skate some so that was pretty cool! I did really well too, and the only time I fell was because this big kid ran into me while I was trying to keep kids that didn’t have skates on from coming on the skating rink/area. They had a presentation about what Campus Life is and very briefly talked about Jesus and the Gospel. Alexa and I kind of crashed during this, considering it was almost 3am and the kiddos were all paying attention to the presentation we took advantage of the situation. Then we all loaded buses and headed over to the Regional Sports Complex in Springfield. Here there was volleyball, ping pong, basketball, dodge ball, air brush tattoos, a dance, laser tag and FOOD!! So for the rest of the night we made sure everyone was safe, not doing stupid things and trying to stay awake/coherent. I got home around 7:30 talked to Gavin before he headed to Fresno for the game and then CRASHED! It was verrrryyy nice to sleep after spending 11 hours chaperoning middle schoolers

GAME DAY!

Basically I am pretty stoked on Oregon football. The enthusiasm here is phenomenal, I love it! It makes me wish Poly had this kind of spirit, because I probably would have been more into football and sports there. But, these are the differences between big Pac-10 schools and smaller FCS schools. Anyway, game day started out pretty good the video above was posted on Saturday and got me even more pumped for the game, even though I didn’t have a ticket (rant on how the ticketing system s-u-c-k-s at another time). I went with Alexa to watch the game at a friends parents house. First about the game: the first half scared me a little. I wish they could just come out in the first half how they have been playing the second half. Thankfully we rocked Stanford’s world in the second half and won by two touch downs!! Also, we are now #3!!!! WOOOOO!! Now Ohio State needs to loose (sorry Ryan if you are reading this) and Oregon win out, and we are going to the BCS National Title Game!!! Woooooooo! How awesome would that be?!?!?! Basically it would be amazing! So I’m rooting for anyone that plays Alabama or Ohio State and of course representing my ducks 🙂 Also here is a link to the original I Love My Ducks video from before the Rose Bowl

As far as watching the game goes I met some really awesome people! One girl was friends with Tyler B from high school, so that was really cool! Another girl was from Santa Clarita originally and knew people that I know from Poly. (Heather if you are reading this, she said she knew you from church!) What a small world right?! So that was really awesome to get to watch the game and get to know some sweet people. After the game honestly I was exhausted! A few people came over and we watched an episode of community, which was pretty funny, and then I was ready for bed!

Sunday was my catch up day! Both on sleep and some homework. I was feeling a little sick/catching a cold so I went to church slept a lot did some stuff around the house and then went to CCF. It was cool to go and catch up with people I had met this summer and get to hear the message. The college pastor is looking at 1 Cor. 13 and the different characteristics of love and how they apply to relationships (dating, marriage, friendship and people you encounter) Sunday he talked about patience and it was good and interesting how patience truly is a HUGE part of loving someone.

Thats all for now! How were all of your weekends?? Did you have a college football game that you were especially into or cared about the results of?

Everything but the kitchen sink

It has been forever since I have updated and there is much to update about!! So lets get going!

The rest of summer

First off, my mom and I went on a road trip to look at schools for grad school. I want to do a school counselor program. It was fun to take a road trip and spend time with my mom. I went to Sac State, San Jose State and St. Mary’s. Of the three I liked St. Mary’s, but for $25,000+ a year it should be the program that was most appealing! Honestly Sac State was the least impressive, and I would want to try my hardest to not go there. The campus and feel of the school just didn’t stand out to me. Did that happen to any of you while looking at colleges?? Did you like the school that cost the most? I’m still not sure whether I want to do grad school right away. Right now I am leaning more towards taking a year off, but we will see how everything ends up. Honestly I need to pray about it a LOT more because I really don’t know what the Lord has in store for me next year. It is slightly crazy to me that I am already thinking about plans for next year when I have literally just started fall team.

Other then looking at schools my mom and I visited SLO Saturday night until Wednesday morning. It was really great to hang out and get to spend time there and see so many wonderful people! My mom and I stayed at Apple Farm which was so much fun! We got to do a lot of things that I love in SLO including going to Avila! It was super windy, but still great just to be at the ocean! I picked up some rocks and stuff for another little project in my living room : ) It was great getting to spend some quality time with Gavin before being apart for almost 2 months, which will be our longest time apart so far. Also I loved getting to go to Crusade and seeing everyone there! I also got to go to Jesus burgers for a little and the slack street party. All of it was so great to go to! Being away makes me realize how unique and special the community is there. Seriously that many college students who are seeking, on fire for and loving Jesus is amazing! It makes me want that kind of community here in Eugene. I feel so blessed to have been able to spent 2 years in that amazing transformational community. SLO, Crusade and the people there have made a lasting impact on my life and it was really great to be able to experience that one more time before coming up here for the year. Also I loved getting to catch up on life with people and I truly wish I had the time to get to talk more in depth with more people to hear about their summers and how God was working in their lives this summer. But, that is why there is skype right?  ; ) It was so great to see so many people that I care about, it made me miss you all less!! I had been hearing about people’s lives from Gavin, but it was great to actually talk to people and hear from them, not that I don’t appreciate the updates Gavin : )

So then I came back and I was home for a day then I came down to Eugene to get settled in before school started. Friday night I was bored so I baked cupcakes for the UO game Saturday. I had seen the cook books Hello Cupcake and Whats New Cupcake at the Jelly Belly factory (where my mom and I got belly flops SO GREAT!) and was inspired. So I was ambitious and decided to make Oregon O decorations for my cupcakes. My yellow Os set up nicely, but I didn’t make them as thick as I should have, so some broke. However my green Os did not set up very well. I think it was because I was working on the counter that is above my dishwasher so the heat from that made the chocolate set up funny. I got the colored melting chocolate from Michael’s and it tasted just like white chocolate and wasn’t too pricey!  Here is the finished product:The basic idea with the melted chocolate is to have a design or pattern under a piece of parchment paper and then pipe the chocolate in the design and let it set. To make it easier to put the decorations on the cupcakes I made a point to stick into the cupcake. I don’t have a picture, but you get the idea. Overall pretty easy to make plain cupcakes a little more fun! Not to mention the Ducks won Saturday against Arizona State!! WOOOOO!!! Saturday we play Stanford it is going to be a close game, but hopefully a good one with a Oregon W! I am hoping to get a ticket to be able to experience a Pac-10 game as a student, but we will see. It is really hard to get tickets because they only have around 4,000 student tickets. Anyway, Sunday I went back to Salem for Ashley and Matt’s engagement party. It was a great BBQ and nice to see family friends. Then I came back to Eugene to get ready for school Monday!

School

School started Monday and it felt really weird starting, but also like we should have started a while ago. For the most part I am excited for my classes this quarter. I am taking SOC 330: Sociology of Family, SOC 345: Race, Class and Ethnicity, GEOG 142: Human Geography, SOC 491: Sociology of Education (Online class) and last but not least DANC 199: Salsa. Geography seems like it could be a really cool class, it is a lot of freshmen, but other then that it seems good. The teacher seems really interesting so hopefully that class will be a good one. I am taking Salsa and my roommate is actually taking the same class! I’m pretty excited to learn Salsa and get to take it with my roommate and a few of her friends!

Garden

My plants are all back in Eugene with me! I planted some parsley and cilantro in a pot that I had had flowers in. But I think I am more excited to have more herbs!! I will post pictures once they have sprouted and start to grow. My green beans grew beans again and I was so excited to find beans when I came back from CA most recently. Also once I had harvested the main head of broccoli there were other side heads that started growing that I harvested yesterday and had in a stir fry with my green beans! Also I have now ate 5, yes that is right 5 cucumbers that I have grown! Plus there are more on the vine still! I must say that from now on I will be growing cucumbers I love them soooo much and there is just something rewarding about eating produce that you have grown!

These are the broccoli, green beans and cucumber I picked the other day!

Projects/finishing my room

So I haven’t actually finished my quote/painting project, but I plan to do that this weekend! However I have finished my room for the most part. There are some mirrors that I want to put up over my dresser, but other then that done and organized!! Now my goal is to just keep it this way throughout the quarter! If you know me at all you know this is an ambitious goal, but one that I would really like to achieve. So here are some pictures:

My bed and bedside table

Close up of the wall decal. It was a labor of love that took f-o-r-e-v-e-r! I think that was mainly because my walls are textured and the letters didn’t stick very easily to it. But it is up and I’m lovin’ it so far!

My desk area

A little reading nook/area. Plus the ottoman/seat is storage! So great!!

My desk, pictures of people I care about and words of encouragement!

Calendar & cards!

My huge closet, door to my room & pictures of my lovely roomies : )

That is all for now! Thanks for sticking with me through the long post!! I am really going to try to update more often (then I will also have less to write about, hence shorter posts)! As always I would love to skype and catch up on life more! Hope everyone has a good rest of the week and a fantastic weekend!!

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